I think pre-wedding stress is starting to get to me now. There still seem to be so many small details to attend to. I now understand why they write wedding planning books that say "no matter what you do, someone will be unhappy" because it's true. Planning a wedding is like dealing with money; if you bring the subject up, friends and family are always happy to venture an opinion. I think people are more amiable if you choose to discard their advice, however. Loved ones seem to feel that they have a personal stake in putting the "special" in "Your Special Day" and therefore tend to get more upset when you discard don't listen to their scintillating pearls of wisdom.
Based on my wedding planning experiences, I've worked out a few simple rules that will make the lives of a perspective bride and groom so much easier:
- Make sure to show up on time -- showing up late is only going to get someone into trouble.
- Be civil -- getting into a fight at the wedding ceremony or the reception is not the kind of "memorable" that the happy couple have in mind.
- Don't show up with someone extra -- if the invite only says "you and your wife", don't show up at the reception with you, your wife, and your three high school age sons.
- Try not to stray too far from the bridal registry, unless you know the couple very well -- stinky candles and velvet Elvis paintings are not charming, unless you know that the bride and groom have been looking for just those things to finish decorating their double wide.
With that said, it looks like far fewer people than we initially expected will be showing up for our wedding. The first round of invitations was to 262 people. Of these, approximately 140 said yes. Now we've sent out invites to another 60 or so. We need about 30 of them to show up, or we're not going to meet our "minimum" required by the catering contract.
Well, I'd best be heading home soon (ssh... don't tell Company O. that I'm writing this on "company" time.) My computer at home has been acting up... again. Perhaps it is simply time to go out and buy a computer from e-Machines and be done with all this mucking around.
on 2004-06-03 at 6:25 p.m.
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